Most churches today completely miss that men and women are different and have different roles to play in life. Some play lip service to it, but they do little to enforce it in reality. Even the more conservative ones can fall prey to this, while thinking they are keeping a proper Biblical balance.
The Biblical Position
[Deu 22:5 NKJV] 5 “A woman shall not wear anything that pertains to a man, nor shall a man put on a woman’s garment, for all who do so [are] an abomination to the LORD your God.
This is under The Law, but the principle is still consistent with the rest of the Scriptures. That would make it worth considering today, even though Christians are clearly not under The Law. Considering what it means for both sexes is a worthwhile exercise.
A Man Dressing Like a Woman
This can be easy to figure out in many cases. A man in a dress is obviously dressing like a woman, except if it is a kilt, though those are both rare in most areas and look very different from a normal skirt or dress. Other ways this may push the edge is wearing frilly clothing that intentionally looks quite feminine, but such things are normally limited to those following their same sex attraction.
A Woman Dressing Like a Man
This is far from clear in most of our society. Any expectation for specific female clothes has almost completely gone out the window. Women can wear just about anything today with no special denigration or even notice today. Anything from stretch pants to jeans has become the norm for most women.
It Goes Beyond Wearing Dresses and Pants
I have mentioned this issue to some church leaders and the the response I got only thought I was trying to push the “women must wear dresses not pants” message. They had walked so far down the modern path that they couldn’t even consider the deeper issue.
I would strongly argue that women look far more feminine in most dresses than pants. This doesn’t mean a woman could never wear jeans (in my view at least), but how many women wear dresses today? Look around the next church service you are in. Count how many women are in dresses, especially ones that look feminine. Then count how many look like men, at least except for any breasts, though even these can be almost invisible at times for at least some women.
Feminine and Masculine Looks
How often do men dress in a masculine way these days? That does not mean wearing a suit or unbuttoning a shirt down to the navel. The first is just formal business wear, not necessarily masculine clothes. The latter is just a failed fashion style of the past that is fortunately not very popular anymore. I am sure you can think of many other caricatures that are comical, as well.
In the same way most women today do not dress in ways to properly highlight femininity. This implies very sexually suggestive clothing in today’s world, but that is not really what this term really means. Feminine is not slutty, though you would not know that watching the entertainment industry coverage. This could be a reason some women avoid any attempt at looking feminine, but that is not the only reason.
A Biblical Masculine and Feminine Standard
Avoiding thinking on this issue is another wimpy approach of modern churches. We can and should focus on looking appropriate and clearly showing the differences God created.
Keep in modesty, but don’t try to make women just “men with boobs” and therefore eliminate the incredible difference God has put into place!