Pushing Women Up at the Expense of Men
Women are pushed forward in almost every area of life today, usually at the expense of men. They are told that they can succeed at anything the want to do and only evil men seek to hold them back. Many Christians have unfortunately bit into this foolish idea and regularly lead women astray as well, even while claiming to oppose the harmful messages from the world.
A Woman Needs a Man Like a Fish Needs a Bicycle
This phrase was commonly trotted forth as feminism continued its tromp through our society many years ago. Men were supposedly completely worthless, except perhaps as sperm donors to help women have the children many of them wanted. Men certainly weren’t important beyond that. Women were supposedly the peak of human perfection, all by themselves. They didn’t need a man for anything, right?
Anything a Man Can Do, a Woman Can Do Better!
This was another popular phrase, but it is completely idiotic. Women are not super humans that can do it all, with men being needless appendages. This would be funny if it were taken so seriously today. It has proven wrong time and time again, yet it still underlies the thinking of many today, in spite of how much it goes against reality.
Certain Stereotypes are Really True
The range in men and women and their abilities does overlap, but each has a different role to play in life overall, in spite of our attempts to pretend otherwise. Men are, on average, stronger than women. This is why sports have male and female divisions.
The old joke about men being needed to open pickle jars remains funny because it is so true. Upper body and hand strength favors men overall, even if a specific woman may be better than a specific man in this. Society is attempting to breed weak men who can’t open these jars, but that is a choice, not an inherent reality.
You Can Be Anything You Want to Be
This is one of the biggest lies foisted on our society. It has caused great harm since all of us cannot be anything we want to be. A woman will never be a top NFL player for one example. Women’s sport leagues are much less focused on raw ability than the male version, as the WNBA showed, validating this difference. That game is far different and was ultimately unpopular with most potential fans, whatever their gender.
The Biblical Focus
[Tit 2:4-5 NKJV] 4 that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 [to be] discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.
The Scriptures cover about what women should be taught, but few practice that today, even in the Church. It may be an occasional message at a limited attendance (during the workday) women’s Bible Study lead by the pastor’s wife, but it is rarely heard from a pulpit, let alone at a strong woman’s conference.
A local church regularly has a woman’s conference where they focus on a woman being all she can, yet they leave out coverage of the very things noted in the verses above. They instead focus on the one area women were excluded from, preaching to men, though they may not use those exact words.
Overcoming the Past without Repentance
Such conferences will regularly tell women that they need to overcome their past. They will likely have testimonies from women who left abusive relationships or such and learned to get on with their lives. It is never questioned how abusive things really were, since a woman would never misunderstand something, right? (See Eve for a clear example of a woman being very confused about things and getting others into trouble.)
No woman is ever confronted for unrealistic expectation or even told to “go and sin no more” as Jesus told the woman caught in adultery. The focus is only on how wonderful and beautiful the woman is and how she can and should succeed in life. This message is not bad in some aspects, but needs to be coupled with a message of repenting from past sin, not ignoring past poor actions that are likely to be repeated.
Another Version of the Prosperity Gospel
I am someone who believes the Bible has many promises on health and wealth that too many today leave behind, but some of the criticism of those who got overly focused on that is also true. We must focus on both God’s promises and provision as well as our roles in bringing that about. Churches rarely do the latter for women today however, making it all about how woman can and should succeed with nothing said about their own role to follow the firm commands of Jesus along that path.
I expect to write more on this in the future, but hopefully this post has laid the groundwork of the significant error in this area along with how many Christians have unfortunately completely followed that and strayed from the clear teaching of the Word of God.