Creation in a Specific Order
God created man first, then created woman as a helpmeet for the man. This means that woman was created to be a help for man. That does not sit well with many in the modern church, including many who should know better, but it remains an established first principle however much anyone dislikes it.
The Order is Confirmed
The Epistles restate this order.
[1Ti 2:13 NKJV] 13 For Adam was formed first, then Eve.
Paul emphasizes that the man was made first, then the woman. The Scripture then goes on an covers deception and who is more likely to fall for it.
[1Ti 2:14 NKJV] 14 And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression.
This is the basis for the reason Paul clearly notes that women should not lead (or teach) men in the church, since they are more prone to deception, with the implication that this was because of the order of creation.
Adam walked in knowing rebellion, which is a problem in and of itself. This means that men are more prone to willfully do wrong, but less likely to accidentally do wrong. That is the exact opposite of women.
Messed Up Society
The proper godly order is strongly opposed today, even in churches that claim to hold true to God’s word. Many who claim to put the Word first have twisted so many things around that the woman becomes the defacto leader, whoever the figurehead is on paper.
This means that a pastor’s wife or other leading women in the church will often end up controlling the direction and even doctrine in the church rather than the pastor and other men technically in leadership roles.
Those men may be the voice of things, but they end up following the will of their wives. This is fed by the underlining assumption that women make men better (with no mention of the reverse) and the idea that women are more spiritual and spiritually in tune than men. Thus following your wife is the best direction, in the minds of such people, since the woman hears God’s voice and commands better. This makes her the Holy Spirit in the man’s life!
Things Need to Change
This situation is likely to continue for some time, but it will not continue forever and is a travesty for those churches that claim to be following God’s Word. They are following a goddess cult instead, even though they would likely never admit that. Some even proudly proclaim that women should be put on a pedestal, something that makes them an idol. The Scriptures are clear that any idol is bad, no matter who it represents.
I wish I could hold out hope for this to change soon, but I have personally come across far too many that do not even see the problem. Some of these will even claim women do not lead, yet are always confronting men on supposed sin, yet soft peddling even the mildest comment about female behavior. Many don’t even bring up any lacking by women at all.
Think how fast the men in a church will gather around a woman who claims “abuse” with or without any proof of such. They will actively help undermine marriages, even while claiming to oppose divorce, because woman can manipulate them so easily. A radio call-in show host I have heard goes off on a rant that a woman “does not need to be a punching bag” if one claims abuse, with no knowledge that woman frequently make up such charges to gain the upper hand (especially in divorce proceedings) and the abuse claims have nothing to do with true physical abuse.
How many men have had their lives ruined by an unhappy wife who made a false claim, directly or implied, of abuse? Too many take those words at face value without any thought of their truthfulness. This attitude assumes women do not sin and is harmful in many different ways.
I pray some pastors read this and the other things I write here with open eyes. The Christian Church needs to awake from its slumber. I do not expect this to happen for many though, since the rot is so deep and the cost of standing against it is too high. Even for those who think they are willing to stand against any foe shrink back about confronting any sin by the women in their congregations or even those in the world. The foe they end up supporting is far worse and has killed more godly marriages than any ungodly person, yet they fail to see that and will not budge from their false convictions. They are doing more harm to the Gospel and the Truth of God’s Word than the harshest foes, but they do not see it!
Ruling Women are a Curse
[Isa 3:12 NKJV] 12 [As for] My people, children [are] their oppressors, And women rule over them. O My people! Those who lead you cause [you] to err, And destroy the way of your paths.”
All the efforts of even those in church leadership is leading us to a cursed situation. God state this as a bad path, most churches embrace it today. Do we really want women to rule over our churches and get the curse that either indicates or produces?